the key difference between a child and an adult …

… the importance of relationships …

“What is the difference between a child who makes a mistake and an adult who makes a mistake? That the child does not sever that bond; he can’t even look at his mistake without seeing it immediately embraced by his mother. On the contrary, what happens to us? We think that we have to deal with it on our own after all. What is evident to a child, i.e. that he cannot make it on his own, is not part of our habitual perception of ourselves. For us this fragility of ours is like a phase we have to overcome. Furthermore, we think that the Mystery gets angry at us, just like we get angry at ourselves, thus projecting on Him our own measure. This way we sever the bond. What happens when one hurts you? A distance is introduced between you and that person; it happens even with the person you love most. This is the true evil of evil: that it strikes at the level of the bond that introduces us to real knowledge. So the real issue isn’t not to make mistakes – if that were the case it would be all over for us –but for our bond to become more powerful, and determine life more than our partial gaze.” (Julian Carron May 2010 p. 6)