“ … what one suffers is beyond one’s control – suffering is what one undergoes, what happens, what one endures. One cannot control true suffering. Suffering is what remains when one’s control runs out. And the very fact that it is beyond one’s control means that it helps to define one’s limits. To be a patient is to be one who suffers, and to suffer is to experience one’s limits.”
Daniel Sulmasy OFM MD PhD A Balm for Gilead p. 62