on how to listen …

… He knew how to listen. He listened intensely. He was not listening for the slip where he could introduce a wedge of condemnation, but so that he could grasp all the energy of the hidden spring from which words pour forth. And when he answered, he would unveil prospects that attracted his interlocutor, like a lover, as if to give more complete fulfilment to the other’s idea. In devoting himself entirely to what the other was saying, he also gave the impression that the person was fully understood. In a way he would reveal people to themselves by explanation and by transmitting a spark of his own fire to them. On every occasion … his method (if method there was) was the same as Jesus’, as he defined it … and in which he saw the “genre proper of the mission”: “To propose to all a mystery which surpasses even the greatest of us but takes such a connatural form that the most insignificant of us may draw life from it and recognize in it all that in him is most familiar and private.” (Henri de Lubac Images de l’abbe Monchanin quoted in Luigi Giussani Why the Church? p. 230)